Your baby is crying! You don’t have enough milk!
Your milk isn’t good enough for your baby – you need to supplement with formula.
Formula fed babies are healthier than breastfed babies.
My mother and sister didn’t have enough breastmilk so I won’t have milk either.
Chinese women don’t have enough milk.
These are the common statements you’d hear around town.
There isn’t enough support out there for women who choose to breastfeed in my country.
In breastfeeding-friendly hospitals you have trained breastfeeding consultants, nurses, and breastfeeding rooms at every corner. But when you go home, you are helpless. If you have the money to hire a lactation consultant to come over to your house to help you, then you’re one of the fortunate ones. There isn’t a health visitor who will knock on your door to say ‘hey, how are you and the little one doing?’. Most confinement ladies are not breastfeeding-friendly. Breastfeeding-friendly confinement ladies are in high demand and are usually fully booked.
If you have an unsupportive mother-in-law who insists that your baby is crying because your breastmilk isn’t keeping her full, then you are most likely going to give up. A majority of the older generation tell young moms today that their milk lacks essential nutrients for their babies to grow. They compare the weight and size of a fully formula-fed baby and tell young moms that their breastfed babies are skinny and unhealthy.
I’ve been on the receiving end of all these remarks. I refuse to get into arguments with them because it would take too much effort to educate them. My immediate family members have all been very supportive although there were one or two who ask ‘why isn’t he a fat and chubby like a cherub?’ because according to Asian parenting, a chubby baby is a healthy baby.
I breastfed my baby for 14-months, he self-weaned, not me.